EMBRACING FALLING APART

Nederlands: UITEENVALLEN OMARMEN

THIRD NEW FABLE after the release of my bilingual book with 30 psychological fables. More info about my book in which you can get to know all the animals.

EMBRACING FALLING APART
fable inspired by the personality development theory: Positive Disintegration

The vole wanted. This wanting had been awakened in him when the owl one day had asked the animals at the large glade: “What do you want?”
At that moment, the vole had discovered that he was entitled to want something, although he did not yet know what and how, whereto or wherefore. Only that when he saw the ladybug move to music, he was deeply touched and something stirred within him.*
Inspiration, observed the owl and the giraffe had been thinking the same. That was a word the vole did not comprehend, he just felt the tingling.
That spring as once again the vole spun around with the marmot at the feast of the magnolia, he felt what was trying to find its way out. The ladybug had seen it too and had invited him to prepare a beautiful dance for the next Games.
And that is how it came to be that the ladybug and the vole often practised together and the owl and the giraffe liked to look on them. They saw how the vole’s inspiration was growing.
“If I run towards you like this”, said the vole, suggesting a new part to their dance, “then you can fly around me like that and then we do a spin, which turns into …”
The ladybug gave him a big hug, enjoying so much the vole’s budding inspiration.
“Great, isn’t it?”, said the ladybug, “to be so free”, because for the ladybug the feeling of flowing harmony, was the greatest freedom he could think of.
“Yes,” said the vole, “wonderful! But I’m not there yet. The whole thing still falters so often. Then I am stumbling, colliding, jolted; not knowing what I want, which way … I want so much one long fluid movement in which everything naturally floats from one thing into another all the time without fits and starts.”
“Oh”, said the ladybug, who had to let this sink in for a while because there was something about it, but what? Fits and starts, yes, but that could be fluid too, couldn’t it?
“Maybe,” said the giraffe, “the ladybug is experiencing falling apart and then picking up the pieces in new ways, as part of the flow, whereas the vole still thinks of it as a delay, an obstacle, an interruption to the flow.”
“Yes,” said the ladybug, “because it’s always a matter of falling down and getting up again, of wondering whereto and what for, pondering on what you truly want. That’s just how things work. If you embrace that, you will still keep it together, even if it falls apart.”
“Inner conflicts”, said the owl, knowing the words for it, “as forces of growth for your developmental potential.” **
“Yes”, said the vole, who did not understand this with his head, but felt in the rest of his body that his movement was growing in fluidity.

** This sentence refers to ideas and concepts from the personality development theory (TPD) by Kazimierz Dąbrowski (1902-1980). You can read more about this theory (TPD) on the website PositiveDisintegration. The Dutch version of this fable is published on the Dutch website for this theory.

* The ladybug moving to music, is a nod to the Swiss figure skater Stéphane Lambiel. During his years as a competition skater, he had the ladybug as his symbol. See the start of this video (after 10 sec the ladybug).

After his competative skating career, he has been skating at shows, where there are no rules and he can let himself freely go in interpreting the music. See this video.

Recently, he skated in Japan and afterwards he was interviewed. He says the following: see video. “The atmosphere was really great. I was able to let go and I was able to connect with the crowd. I had some interactions with the audiance and that feels really, really nice. It’s a song that has a very good rythm, very good groove. Because they are sitting in sight, they can dance with me, you know, kind of get the movement and the action going and down the road, this is for me like the image of life. We are constantly moving and we are constantly on the road, going forward. So that’s the feeling of having the people moving with me and moving forward.”

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Read more fables and get to know the animals’ characters in my book that is published by BoekScout
The book is bilingual: Dutch-English

HOE HET ZO GEKOMEN IS / HOW IT ALL CAME TO BE
psychologisch fabels / psychological fables

*As in all fables, the stories mirror human behaviour. Through the animals’ characters, we actually look at ourselves and our society. The fables are contemplative, yet vivid and quite humorous.*

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